How to Tell Your Partner They Need Medication for Anger

By | December 22, 2018

When there’s a problem with your partner, it can be hard to confront it. Even if you have the healthiest relationship on the surface, it’s never easy to admit something isn’t right. You may worry about offending them, hurting their feelings, or making them consider breaking up with you. These are all natural ways to feel when thinking about confronting a serious issue. But, what’s the alternative? When you deny what’s happening in your relationship, it’s bound to make matters worse. One of the hardest things to confront is when a person has problems with managing anger. It starts with emotional outbursts but can lead to physical violence if it’s left unchecked. There are many ways to treat agitation, which include therapy and medication. You may be skeptical that psychiatric drugs can help with rage, but they can. A remedy for anger is viable, and you might consider talking to your partner about consulting a psychiatrist. In this article, we’re going to talk about how medicine can help people treat their anger problems in conjunction with seeing a therapist. Taking medication for anger can help a person a lot.

Medication takes the edge off

Don’t get me wrong, medication isn’t the answer to solving anger management problems, but it is helpful at times; especially for those with disorders such as PTSD, where the person is prone to rage. First, let’s make something abundantly clear: the person isn’t exploding at you on purpose. It’s a symptom of their mental health issues. Now, it doesn’t excuse their unchecked anger; however, it does explain it. Your partner might not be aware of their rage, and that’s why it’s crucial for you to notice it, and bring it up to them. But, there’s a time and a place to confront the issue, and it’s not in the moment where they’re yelling.

How to confront your partner about anger issues

First thing’s first, don’t try to reason with someone who is angry. Don’t engage with them or yell back. The best thing you can do is say, something along the lines of “I can’t have a conversation about this when you’re raising your voice. I’m going to take a walk now.” You’re entitled to take the space that you need to get away from the intense emotion in front of you. They might not understand, but you’re allowed to take care of yourself. You won’t be able to change how they feel, and it’s important to accept that. You can come back to the conversation when they’ve gained control over their feelings.


People who struggle with anger are prone to violent behavior, but mainly if mental health professionals do not treat it. Like any emotional issue, it’s essential to address anger problems and see a therapist and (if need be) a psychiatrist. You may wonder “why a psychiatric professional? What’s the benefit there?” Taking medication to manage anger while seeing a therapist, whether that’s online or in private practice, can assist the person in coping with their feelings of rage. You might be reading this and thinking, “but my partner isn’t violent.” Not now they’re not. But they could be. So encourage them and empower them to seek help.

Finding treatment

Whether your partner is seeing an online therapist or someone in your neighborhood, they need help. I have a friend who separated from her husband because he refused to see a therapist to deal with his anger. That’s common, and anger issues have the potential to ruin relationships. Don’t let that situation happen to you. Tell your partner that you value your connection, and you want them to be well. There’s hope for them if they healthily address their anger, in counseling and (if necessary) taking medication.

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